Residential Moving with Teens

Home is where the heart is, at least that is what is said in an old proverb, it can always be if you make it that! Wherever you go there you are, Hmmm.

So you have to move, not always easy, if ever. However, there are many websites with all sorts of suggestions on how to make the move easier and simpler. And they probably all have some valid suggestions. What about the heart, cause all these websites talk about is this list of, to do’s and not to do’s, enough to make it another task, lol.

What about the heart, are you leaving some place you don’t want to because of this reason or that, whatever the reason if you have to leave then what about the heart? How do we care for the heart? Children have a hard time, but little one’s are resilient, teenagers another story. And let’s not forget about the adults. If your moving from a home that’s truly been home, it’s difficult no matter how you look at it. Maybe your husband or wife got a transfer and it’s in everyone’s best interest to go with this flow. Or maybe it’s time to upgrade your living conditions because your income now allows it. We could go on and on, still back to the fact that it hurts and how do we make it not so painful.

For starters, if it is a family we are talking about right now, your family is more important than anything, and the move is decided, that’s the bottom line, so how do we care for ourselves and our family. We must consider each situation unique, for we all have a different perspective and outlook on just about everything.

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I found this from an old article from the New York Times:

By SARAH KERSHAWFEB. 26, 2010

Whether one moves frequently or almost never, moving is an intensely emotional experience. The underlying psychological issues involved in real estate decisions are of great interest to therapists and psychologists, because housing and moving are filled with symbolism, the hope for new beginnings, crushing disappointments, loss, anxiety and fear.

“Panic can really set in around your home and your apartment,” said Ronnie Greenberg, a Manhattan psychoanalyst. “It’s a matrix of safety, so moving is incredibly stressful and people don’t realize it — they mainly talk about the packing and the external part of moving.”

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The last line is what I am speaking of here, we mainly get caught up in the external part of moving, again, what about the heart.

I remember when I was 16 yrs. old and our family moved, it was devastating, took a long time to recover and it left a lasting mark in ways I couldn’t describe at the time. But what is, is, the move, leaving one place and it being replaced by another. For teenagers I suggest some a professional hand, a good guidance counselor, a therapist that specializes in teenage issues, and if one cannot afford this there are reliable sources on the internet that help parents softly tend to these and such issues. Parenthood.com is one.

In fact, this is one small excerpt from an article from parenthood.com:

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Why Teens Have More Trouble

Relocation is hard on adults and kids. But for teenagers the transition is tougher. Teens confront a host of social and psychological issues that younger children and adults don’t. Thus they’re probably going to be much more reluctant to go along with a move and much more vocal about their objections.

When your teen hears that they have to move, the first thing they’re likely to think is that moving will separate them from their friends. During junior high and high school, adolescents put a tremendous amount of time and energy into finding just the right peer groups.

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And if you are an adult and there are issues needing to be resolved concerning the move, well we are never too big or too old or to mature to seek some guidance from an expert, just a thought or a suggestion.